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Who is Dave
Gay Life Coach Based In San Francisco
My gig?
Showing you the path to embracing your desire.
I feel productive and successful, and I want my clients to experience the same exhilaration in all areas of their lives. There is an ease to my work and my life; others recognize the value of what I do. My life, as a result, is filled with peace, creativity, and love. At the end of each day, I can measure my success for the day by affirmatively answering the following questions:
- Did I have fun today?
- Did I feel spiritually connected?
- Did I become more of who I really am?
- Did I give and receive love?
- Did I use my gifts in ways that invite others to live more fully and be successful?
Meet Coach 4 Men
My name is Dave, have been an eagle scout, Mormon missionary, Southern Methodist University MBA, a fast-tracked corporate escapee who escaped to be a life coach and erotic educator.
I work with men ready to explore the real possibilities that happen when they live life embracing feelings, intimacy, spirit and power. I work with a vast toolbox. When my clients reclaim and embrace their desire, their individual spirituality and their feelings, they develop truly intimate relationships with themselves and others. These men find that lives that were good but not satisfying prior to embracing their desire can be lived in technicolor with great pleasure and joy.
I’m a life coach primarily for gay men because coaching has been a powerful force in my life. With the support of a life coach of my own, years ago, I moved from a life lived to measure up to the standards of success set by others, to a life lived by my own measures of success. The result is that I now live, work, and play at the intersection of my strongest skills and talents: what I love to do and what I believe I am called to do. It is a joyful, rewarding, and sweet place to be.
Why hire me as your coach?
- I welcome all your desires, all your feelings, in any area of your life.
- I invite you to show up as all of who you are, proudly flying your freak flag and flaunting the parts that others have shamed.
- I believe each of us has been blessed with a life that can be lived shamelessly a life that's everything we want it to be and more.
- I understand what it is to live a life by other's standards.....and it sucks.....and it can be different.
I look forward to partnering with you as your life coach!
The mission of Coach 4 Men
I believe part of my life’s work is assisting men to find fulfillment and healing in their lives, with a special emphasis on expressing needs and fulfilling desire in their erotic lives. As a coach, trainer, speaker and workshop facilitator, I honor this belief and the values that support it.
I am an instructor for the Body Electric School, because I believe the work they offer has the capacity to dramatically alter a man’s relationship to his body. Body Electric work gave me the capacity to love my body as it is, in a way that ripples into other parts of my life. In loving my body, I have changed the way I live. This powerful change in my life is one I would like to inspire in other gay men: the ability to understand and express their own passions and sexual desires. I know that when clients achieve a deep sense of self in this area, it carries over to empower other areas of their personal and professional lives for a holistic improvement and satisfaction.
My values include fun and play; achievement; living with openness, integrity, and honesty; asking for what I want; generosity; and spirituality. I am compassionate, inspiring, supportive, non-shaming, and open-hearted.
Family is an important aspect of how I identify myself and I am fortunate to have families of birth and choice whom I love and who love me. We support and sustain each other and find great joy in spending time together.
Spirituality enables me to find expression in my life in unexpected ways. Through my exploration of Eastern thought and beliefs, including Tantra and Buddhism, I have reached deeper connections and different access to the spiritual tradition of my early years (Christianity in the Mormon tradition). One expression of this journey was the creation of a workshop for Body Electric’s Spirit and Eros Weekend called “Passion for Living: An Embodied Exploration of the Christian Passion Story.” We spent the weekend as complete, whole, sacred men who love men experiencing the Easter story with and through our bodies — including our erotic bodies. This experience feels like a beginning rather than a completed event. Stay tuned for where this may lead!
My vision is a world of men who love themselves and lead lives of integrity, are comfortable with their desires, and exercise their passions. In loving their complete self, including their erotic self, they create deep, intense, loving connections with self and those whom they call friend, partner, family, buddy, and community. The impact of these connections ripples out to all mankind and this planet we all share.
Coaching for gay men
As a gay man, I find particular affinity for coaching members of my own tribe, but I welcome all.
I believe that gay men have had, and need to reclaim, a role in the human family that is powerful, unique, and necessary. Assisting gay men find their unique ability to contribute is part of my work. Along with a group of other like-minded gay coaches, I have formed an alliance called The Gay Coaches. We envision a world of successful, empowered, passionate gay men, many of whom are coaches themselves and all of whom have coaches.
If you would like to explore the possibilities coaching may create in your life, please contact me. I would be delighted to talk with you about your journey.
“A warrior’s life is not about imagined perfection or victory; it is about love. Love is the warrior’s sword; wherever it cuts it gives life, not death.”
— Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior